In an adjacent field.

So…in those instances I do what you did. I don’t really let it in…I take notes of it like it’s not happening to me at all in my head. Then I report. I put it in its little box of “work bullshit” and leave it there. It gets easier with years imo.

What you have to exercise caution with is unsupportive admin. In that case I advise not putting your license on the line for their convenience.

Graduate school, without a doubt.

Poor male spiders in the web with big mama 😢

Eating some bread and drinking a ramune.
So right now. :)

Those are beautiful. Not native where I am. It reminds me of the “banana spiders” where I grew up. There used to be these big, majestic nests of them. I ran face first through one as a kid. Definitely a core memory.

I’ve gotten brave in my old age. I only relocate them if they become extremely inconvenient …like my doorway spider (sorry frank). I ignore house spiders entirely as they transit my house. Good luck, leggy friend.

I have a pretty orb weaver on the porch (or I did last summer). Hope I get another.

This is a really good point. Avoiding being a target is hard for some people. Masking can be exhausting for them and it’s unfair. I want their environment to be more hospitable somehow.

Pizza from the nice place.

To me, that’s not a partner. You’re describing someone who is incredibly insecure with unhealthy behaviors and YES they are a red flag for abuse. To be avoided.

A lot of good answers here. Being a good model, correcting behavior, treating siblings with equity.

You cannot control everything though. They will have lived experiences outside of the control of their parent, good and bad friends, teachers, etc. They may be born with different medical conditions. All this is impactful in shaping a person, and how flexible they are.

I feel a little scared imagining that lol. I gotta have my bob ross everything is fine scritch scritch happy clouds.

Yeah this is me as well. I just overthink for hours without a distraction. Give me a phone or something to watch and I’m out in 15 minutes honestly. I feel bad because I know I’m probably degrading my sleep but…as least I’m sleeping.

Yes, all of that. Also my laugh is weird.

I enjoy watching it on YouTube. I’m afraid I’d laugh wrong in public so I’ve never been.

So for me when I was dating it was that people were never interested in me as a person, for a variety of reasons.

So for example a lot of people my age have children and look for a mother figure. Or think mothers themselves are not for serious companionship.

Or looking for what I provide as a service (free therapy).

Or it’s a money thing.

Eventually it went from annoying to exhausting. Well, it was not adding anything to my life so why bother?

Deceptive fruit. Banana knife.

The pasta. Especially when it’s layered. Ick.

Unlikely. I have always found dating sites pretty uncomfortable.

Even in the best scenarios, there were never any people who shared my interests. Now I’m older/kinda exhausted of it. :3

If I was younger and still trying, I imagine I would want something that felt less like being in a display case, visually. Maybe also making people who didn’t share any of my values or interests unable to swipe.

Maybe. Try this! https://gprivate.com/6j529

Personally idk I find it too wiggly looking.

As a people scientist, it’s definitely hubris!