There is no answer.
Fart loudly.
That’s the question!
I guess the question is whether or not federation is automatic. If it’s manual, then every instance you want to interact with will have to federate with your instance.
Until the AI learns how to use that as well.
You have to be ok with believing that you’re not annoying others when talking about yourself and asking about them. And you have to do it in a not-creepy way. I haven’t quite figured it out yet.