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  • That’s when you most need to do it.

    Here’s a link for you. Just listen to it with headphones and try to say the phrases out loud along with her (or repeating after her if there are pauses between them). Nice female voice for you even.

    You do not have to believe these phrases as you say them. It’s like when someone says “don’t think about a horse,” and because humans are so silly, we immediately think of a horse.

    You say these things and the phrases are stated in such a way that they trick your subconscious into believing. People say it even works if you play these through headphones as you sleep, because your subconscious brain still hears a lot of it. Your brain is already affecting you with things that are not true, “I’m a total loser” “I’ll never have any friends” “I should not have moved to this city.” Whatever.

    Doing things feels hard because you’re avoiding the emotions that come from negative thoughts about the thing you want to do, and what those negative thoughts might mean about you. It’s a trap. If your brain is saying shit to you like “should/shouldn’t have” or “always/never” it’s cue right away that whatever your brain is saying is not true. Positive affirmations will help.

    https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=yo1pJ_D-H3M


  • Damn, op is 31 but at 35 you’re one foot in the grave. Nah jk. Listen don’t worry about meeting someone. Just go out and make friends in person. Literally you can just go to the same public place every day and meet all the regulars. Helps if it’s some kind of group activity or knowledge sharing activity. Get into something and make some friends; if you keep at it you’ll meet someone that makes each other’s parts will tingle. And if not you’ll have a bunch of friends.

    All life is suffering. You can suffer the discomfort of loneliness or the discomfort of rejection. Probably at the end of the day they are equally uncomfortable but one of these options has the advantage of solving itself over time.

    Another pro tip is to fill your head with positive, affirmative thoughts. Spend ten minutes in the morning repeating a lot of statements such as “I have conquered my fear of public speaking many times over; I love how I feel after a day of hard work; everywhere I go people smile at me.”

    Use someone else’s list or write your own. Any thoughts you have that makes you feel empowered, write them down. If you spend some time on this in the morning, when your brain inevitably starts talking shit later in the day, it’s going to have these positive affirmations right at its finger tips. You WILL find that two things start to happen: you have fewer, negative, intrusive thoughts, and when you do have them, they won’t be as disruptive to whatever your plans and goals are. It really works. If you follow along with a premade positive affirmations video on YouTube, I guarantee you will notice results the same day. 10 to 30 minutes every morning. Will change your life.






  • I always said that too but I really just wanted to continue being stimulated.

    What has helped me is to realize that my brain keeps working at night when.

    Recently I was working on a project with my son involving some engineering and construction and I came up with an idea at like 9:00 pm and thought about it until 11:30 pm while I tinkered with it but I could not make it work right. The next morning it was like my hands knew exactly what to do and I built it immediately and it worked the first try.

    Try acting like your brain’s boss or its commanding officer. Tell it what to do. If you’re having trouble shutting down your brain when it’s coming up in bed time, give it a direct order: “okay conscious brain, it is time for you to stop what you are doing and go to sleep now. Unconscious brain is going to take over on this problem while you are resting.”

    For real, your brain needs to sleep. It uses night time to assimilate the days memories so you can recall them later, and it uses that time to process and understand concepts and make predictions.


  • Thats voice is the whole thing.

    Meditation is the act of quieting that voice.

    The more you practice it, the easier it becomes.

    There’s a lot of ways to meditate (a lot of ways to quiet the voice). Have to practice them.

    The advantage is that the next time you are being distracted by those thoughts at a time when distraction is unhelpful, you will more naturally and easily quiet your mind and resume your focus.

    It’s like practicing to control your thoughts. Think of it like walking the dog. It’s going to pull at first. Gotta keep walking.