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Cake day: June 30th, 2025

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  • liberals will never view cops as human enough to have mental health issues

    Where is this coming from? Do you make that assumption about liberals and military? Because (while not perfect, and continually improving) mental health care for military has made huge advances in understanding and public acceptance in the last 2 decades.

    I would like to see the same shift happen for police.

    I would like for police leadership to truly normalize mental healthcare, and not just give it lip service.

    I would also like for police as a whole to maybe adopt similar rigorous criteria for new career candidates, much like lawyers, CPAs, and other professional licenses. I’m held to a high standard of conduct and criminal liability because I have the technical knowledge to really destructively ruin peoples’ lives. And the most dangerous tool of my trade is merely a calculator.


  • So for example, if I wanted to minimize stopping, I would pack a wrap type sandwich for easy hand holding. I use a tall coffee travel mug in a cupholder to hold trail mix for extra snacking. And I might pre “crack” some lids on some bottles then tighten them back down, so they’re easier to open one handed. If you like cans, then you have a leg up already.

    My most frequent solo trip is 500 miles to my old hometown. I usually make 1 stop midway to fill up the tank (even though I can get 400+ miles out of 1 tank), hit the restroom, stretch, maybe walk around a retail store just for fun, then back at it until home. But without a way to keep cold drinks, I would be stopping probably every 100 miles, lol.


  • It could fit in the passenger side footwell of my SUV, but I kept it in the way back because I’d rather have my sweetie riding up front, and I also have an extra 12V outlet back there.

    They do come in different sizes. Some have wheels. Mine is 18L and about 15 pounds, so wheels not necessary. Its about a mid to large size cooler shape. Not one of the ones you’d take deep sea fishing, but maybe a small tailgate. Think side handles cooler, not one where the single bar handle locks the lid in place.

    I do not recommend rooting around in it while driving, though if I put it in my pickup on a solo road trip, I probably would put it on the front passenger seat, where if I were stopped at a red light, I could quickly grab another drink.

    If you want me to PM you the link to mine, I’m happy to do so.



  • I finally let myself buy a 12v fridge thing for the car, and it has pretty much paid for itself on the first road trip. I wish I had done this sooner. We packed lunches vs drive thru. And it kept my road sodas sooo perfectly cold, I had no temptation to stop and get icy fountain drinks. I went for a model that I can set the temp even down to negative digits Fahrenheit, hoping that it will perform better in the summer compared to earlier units that are basically electric coolers (no temp control, basically they can only cool things 20° from ambient temp). And it’s inaugural road test was daytime temps in 70s and 80s with no issues getting to 35° in the fridge.




  • This is essentially the same story with my in laws. MIL is gone. FIL is getting angrier day by day without her to be his bullshit caller. He won’t behave himself when he’s 1 on 1 with my husband. It’s tearing my husband to pieces.

    And he’s barely still able to live on his own. He’s been hospitalized 3 times in the 10 months since MIL passed. I noticed that if we have more contact with him, he does better, we catch things and can intervene. But if we go low contact because of hateful behavior then we get blindsided by a hospital trip where we drop everything and screw our schedules all up to deal with his illness & recovery.

    It fucking sucks. I think I’ve started treating him as I would a dementia patient just to be able to be around him. I like another poster’s tactic of declaring something batshit “seems meanspirited”. Maybe it will curb the worst of it. Who knows.

    I’m sorry for you, me, anyone who struggles with whether to sever contact with a (formerly or currently) loved one.