I had no cancer, but know people that did and one thing that came up often is that people tend to distance themselves from them. Not in a mean way, but dealing with special needs is tedious and that is often just a cause to not do certain things. Spending time together (no matter what you end up doing) gives a sense of normalcy and can really push someone to keep fighting. Cancer is a marathon with additional sprints (chemo) on top. Not being alone through all of this is a huge help

I…don’t get it. This is an old way to help a child that has something stuck in their throat. I mean, the heimlich maneuver was first described in 1974, so I guess this WAS in fact the best technique at the time. Keeping someone from suffocating is kind of important, and this seems like something you can do fast and easy (at least with a relatively small person).

I think you already gave yourself the answer in your own case:

Because I give zero crap about what other people think of me.

This applies to people that aren’t in your inner circle. You want HER to be in that circle and suddenly it actually does matter what SHE thinks of you. You have little to lose with people you don’t really care about, but everything to lose with people you do care about. It’s an evil social twist that makes everything so complicated. High self-esteem is just the ability to quickly pull yourself up when you fall and the knowledge that you actually CAN do so. It mitigates the risks of “putting yourself out there”.

Clonezilla is the tool I use after all else has failed. I agree that it is difficult to use, but it can do things others can’t. I saved quite a few of my drives with this thing. So while I try to avoid having to use it, it still belongs in my toolkit.

Not sure if that is anything you might be interested in, but there is Lorien, which uses the godot game engine:

https://github.com/mbrlabs/Lorien