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Cake day: July 2nd, 2023

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  • Besides the advice to seek OBGYN help, I strongly recommend couple’s therapy/counseling. For EVERYONE.

    My wife and I started going to therapy when we were having some issues with communication and it was remarkably helpful. Getting to have a trained third party help work through your issues can assist with reframing and seeing things through one another’s eyes.

    Like, obviously your wife isn’t the only one suffering here, and for her to tell you your feelings aren’t valid is outrageous, but she cannot see that from where she is emotionally right now. But getting her into a different setting and with someone trained to work through things like this may very well be able to get her into a state of mind where she can see how she’s effecting you. And at the same time, a therapist can help you to better support her by identifying the ways you already are and helping her recognize them, but also by helping her to communicate ways that you can better assist.

    I genuinely cannot recommend couple’s therapy enough to EVERY couple. You don’t wait to bring your car into the shop until it’s broken, you bring it in for maintenance occasionally. Treat your relationship the same way and it’ll reward you, I promise.







  • Breakfast.

    People laughed about it when they announced that they were doing breakfast, but I love to try weird foods so I thought I’d give it a shot.

    No joke, the Steak Breakfast Crunchwrap is my favorite piece of fast food breakfast. And (I’m mildly ashamed to admit) I’ve eaten A LOT of fast food breakfast in my life. It’s especially good if you ask for extra creamy jalapeño sauce.

    Pretty much any time I have to be somewhere early in the morning these days—I’ve become quite lazy in my permanent work-from-home schedule—I motivate myself with Taco Bell breakfast.


  • Flerfs can’t understand scale, they can’t understand 3d space, they can’t understand distances, they can’t understand pretty much anything. The world is scary for them, they deserve our pity AND scorn. If only they paid attention in school

    They certainly deserve our pity. They’re lonely people who were never great in school and now get to think they’re smarter than others AND have found a community that accepts them.

    Unfortunately the very pressures that made them susceptible to the flat earth movement and other conspiracies are the same pressures that keep them from accepting that they’re wrong. “Scorn” probably isn’t a useful tool, even if it feels like the right one (and they absolutely deserve it).

    The Socratic method would be far more effective. Continue to ask them questions, accepting as a given that they’re intelligent people and treating them as such. Innocently interrogate them, with genuine interest, about the things they are saying until they reason themselves out of their positions.

    But this will only work if they’re someone you know, most likely. Otherwise they’re likely to shun you the first time they come across a question that truly shakes their position.


  • There’s a fascinating documentary, Behind the Curve. It talks about how, for a lot of these people, it began with the thrill of having some secret knowledge that others don’t, and then found they had a community and felt included for the first time in their lives (for some of them). That sense of community is really important to humans, so now, just like religion, there is more binding people to the movement than just the hidden knowledge.

    (If I’m remembering correctly. I may be conflating it, it’s been a while since I watched it.)