No, it’s 'my life is IT and i never stop working" guy, and “IT is just my job” guy.

I just order a new router on Black Friday to replace my 10 year old one. I also only console game now because PC gaming is too much of a headache. I spend my money on outdoor gear and pets, not technology. My new router is $90 bucks. I can’t fathom why I’d ever need a wifi 7 quad band router with 9Gbps of throughput for a home network, other than pure bragging rights. All my devices are like 5-10 years old and barely support wifi 6 anyway.

A couple of my co-workers are the former. They will be doing penetration testing at 2am form their home lab in the morning because they their default mode is work work work. If i’m up at 2 am i’m watching TV and snacking.

I monitor security updates, but my co-workers like get excited and ramble on anytime a new patch/attack is documented. I don’t get it. They revel in doing updates and rebuilding their VMs fresh every few weeks, I groan and clone.

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I’ve been independent since 18. I don’t maintain my independence… it’s never been an option for me to be a dependent on anyone else.

the interface. of which there are many, and many are quite poorly designed.

they need an enemy to cohere around. so leaving it open for men to comment and vilify helps them build group solidarity.

ironically i can post there and nobody calls me out. because my comments pass as a woman. i am too feminine to be a threat or something.

my experience of lemmy is groups 1 and 2 just attack and insult group 3.

at best they try to ‘educate’ you about how stupid you are for not being a communist or anarchist.

groups 1 and 2 don’t seem to have much tolerance for anyone who doesn’t believe in their ideologically rigid world view

80% of the comments i get screaming at me how i am a fascist pig are .ml users.

the major benefit is there isn’t enough of a dipshit brigade to drown out the genuine smart people who are saying insightful things… yet

but i’ve been here over a year, and the dipshit brigade is growing rapidly. soon enough they will become mods and start banning anyone who doesn’t agree with their dipshit agenda. but at least their power will be limited to only banning you on their particular instance.

reddit used to have lots of cool diverse voices, and that all ended once it became popular enough that your parents new what it was and corporations were desperate to use it to shrill and advertise.

personally i felt like anytime i sub went over 100,000 subscribers it rapidly went to shit. if it was under 100K it was usually a pretty cool place that allowed productive and interesting disagreement and various POV. then once the userbase grew the mods would always become ban happy for anyone they didn’t like who didn’t agree with their agenda/beliefs, and would hypocritically start lecturing users on tolerance and diversity and non abusive behaviour, while banning people over personal disagreements they had with users. i remember i once got banned in cycling subreddit because is said I thought Doritos were gross and the mod basically told me to go f myself for not like the same snack food as he did. lol

You’re basically saying everyone has to get PhDs and only ever talk as as if they are an academic conference. Otherwise they should shut up and not be bale to ever contribute to any conversation.

Do you not see the patent absurdity of that expectation?

Further, being an academic and have a PhD doesn’t make you less susceptible to misinformation and disinformation. I have known tons of PhDs and other highly educated professionals who believe in healing crystals, astrology, and other magical thinking nonsense.

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where i live, perceived bigotry against a third party is seen as way more offense than personal attacks. like people will go out of their way to twist your words to make them seem offensive because it gives them a reason to be upset.

right, so it’s only empathy if i’m upset about people who i will never meet who i have no connection to and have no interest in… and why would ever empathize with such theoretical people?

or are you saying empathy is purely a theretical construct totally devoid of my immediate real world experience? hence i can’t have empathy for my friend who just had to put down his cat, because he is my friend! i can only have empathy for who… people starving in africa?

because trump appeals to them. the democrats don’t, and tend to shit all over them as being unworthy pathetic losers for not having college degrees and high paying office jobs.

Nothing. I sleep well and I rarely dream.

yep, dehumanizing them boost our ego, because it makes us feel superior and justifies hate and violence. because it’s good to hate and hurt those who are ‘bad people’.