It’s obvious and you would be deluded into thinking everyone you interact with likes you.
But how do you feel it?
Context: I’m a course instructor and I get direct reviews on my lessons and around 95% of feedback is positive to very positive.
There’s less than 5% of my reviews that have real negative and non-constructive comments. Things like accusations of being incompetent or unprepared or full of shit, etc. They mention times I had technical difficulties or made a mistake (like giving an incorrect response)
Just by the numbers alone this is a very small minority overall. Yet these comments stick in my head and make me doubt my abilities.
So what are your strategies or ways you drown out this stuff?
There’s a point I reached where I mostly just stopped caring. I also don’t like a lot of people, so I suppose the feeling is at least sometimes mutual.
More to your actual point, learning to deal with criticism is a skill and it can be very tough sometimes for everyone. I normally try to think of how that comment is wrong and, if it’s not, how I can learn and grow from whatever criticism is. Don’t sweat honest mistakes; just try to put systems in place to avoid them (I’m a fan of checklists for some things). For personal attacks or unrelated, just ignore them.