Long time linux user and tinkerer. Currently working as a devops engineer. Very positive to the idea of decentralized internet platforms. :)

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  • mrmanager@lemmy.todaytoAsklemmy@lemmy.mlWhat content do you miss on Lemmy?
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    11 months ago

    It is irrational. Just because you believe that various forms of xenophobia (writ large) are “human nature” does not make them rational. Phobias are irrational (that is ‘without reason’) by definition, and attempting to redefine a phobia from a clinical diagnosis to a justification based on your perception that people are inherently prejudiced is itself irrational.

    It’s not a phobia so it’s not irrational. I’ve tried to explain the reasons above but I don’t think you agree, which is fine. According to your definition, everyone who feel uncomfortable around trans people are transphobic, which is absurd to me and I strongly disagree with that.

    With that logic, I am also a racist if I prefer being around people from the same skin color and culture. Then almost everyone on the planet is a racist because they don’t enjoy hanging out with other cultures (like I said above, people tend to group up and be friends with other similar people).


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    11 months ago

    You make a good point but I don’t agree it’s transphobia still.

    We pick people to be around from a number of reasons. Usually because they make us feel good and have similar culture. This is why people of similar culture usually ends up living in the same places. This is why similar people become friends.

    There are entire cities in Spain where only Nordic people live. And same thing in other countries. This is because they want to live near people with the same culture.

    Trans people is something new and different, and it will take time before everyone is comfortable around them. This is not transphobia (irrational fear) or racism. This is human nature.

    With time, it will become normal for people to have trans people around. But today it’s unusual and people need to adapt to it.

    I’m arguing that to make it easier to get to know Trans people, we have every opportunity here on Lemmy for example. If everyone remains friendly.


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    I’m arguing that Transphobia is not hate driven, not for the majority of normal people anyway. They just don’t feel comfortable and wants to avoid trans people because of that.

    It’s human nature to want to avoid situations that makes us uncomfortable. That being said, of course there is a minority of haters. But it’s far from being the majority. The majority don’t even want to deal with it and they just avoid it.

    And I would welcome if trans people would start joining conversations like this one without assuming that everyone is out to hurt them.




  • mrmanager@lemmy.todaytoAsklemmy@lemmy.mlWhat content do you miss on Lemmy?
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    11 months ago

    No idea what you even mean with that. Did you expect a response with “oh that’s strange, I’m sure everyone is really comfortable around trans people these days”.

    They just aren’t.

    I think instead of being hostile against people who admit they are not comfortable, maybe try to help and be a friend instead so people can start to understand that there is nothing to fear?

    Trans people started one of the first mastadon instances and one of the first Lemmy instances as well. I think that’s really cool, and I don’t get why you would drop a oneliner with some kind of witty response when you can actually communicate with people here.


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    11 months ago

    It’s not so strange is it? It’s not like most people feel comfortable around trans people. It took a very long time before even black people were treated normally.

    I don’t actually like the term phobia either. People are not “irrationally afraid” . They just prefer hanging out with people they are used to.









  • What you do?

    You start getting into Linux, buy open source t shirts, grow a beard, listen to Stallman talks, and stop interacting with normies ever again. Only communicate through text travelling over open source technologies.

    Make sure you spend enough hours in front of a keyboard to get a very pale skin color, reddish eyes and a rounded spine and neck. Pull down curtains so you see your screen better and avoid sunlight.

    Drink lots of soda while sitting completely still so you gain fat and lose muscles.

    I use Arch btw.