So I am a part of the LGBTQ community and work in a big city in middle europe. A lot of my coworkers are religios and have a foreign background. They are mostly very nationalist and homo-/transphobic. I hate them for their blind hate and bigotry, which wont change. I have realised, that I have become a bit bigotred towards people like them in the last few months, which is, even tho my biases often revealed to be true, just unfair to them. How could I stop that?
It’s a modified Mad Men meme. Michael “I feel bad for you.” Don Draper “I don’t think about you at all.”
You hate them for what you think they are thinking about you. When in all reality they probably don’t think about you at all.
Unless they’ve directly attacked you or bullied or directed slurs at you, but that’s usually just 1 or 2 assholes, not a whole company of people.