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Cake day: June 19th, 2023

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  • Yeah, you definitely need to see a doctor.

    I’m assuming the er doc was giving you the easier to understand numbers, but a “7” would still be a good bit higher than you’d expect to see in someone with no damage to the heart muscle unless there’s something else weird going on.

    Nobody online can tell you what’s going on, obviously, but I would consider this an urgent matter. It isn’t absolutely a heart issue, but none of the things that can cause elevated troponin are beneficial. With a normal EKG, you weren’t having an immediate issue, but I would definitely be calling your GP now to get the ball rolling. Most of the things that would have your troponin levels to be at that range are very treatable, as in after treatment, the problem is resolved and only needs monitoring over time. The rest are still treatable, but may need more than monitoring.

    So don’t fuck around about it, but also don’t panic.

    With the ER doc not being overly concerned after two tests (which is the norm; changes in levels matter a good bit), it isn’t something where you have to see your doctor now, as in go and camp out in the office until you’re seen. But I would say to request the earliest possible appointment because they probably will refer you to a cardiologist, and the sooner you get the referral, the sooner you’re seen by one.

    Again, don’t panic, your health isn’t ideal, but since it’s confirmed you didn’t have a heart attack, chances are really good that with treatment and lifestyle changes, you’re going to be fine long term.



  • Oh no, the things I like aren’t in pop culture currently! That must mean other people suck, rather than just being that trends shift constantly.

    I hate to say this, but grow up. Whatever you think of your favorites, nobody else is obliged to think the same, and them not liking has nothing to do with them being dreamers or not. The whole concept is absurd in the first place, and people have been saying the same thing about whatever is currently popular instead of what was popular when they were young since the beginning of recorded music. I suspect something similar was in place before then too.

    Besides, you picked one band that’s still hugely influential and popular. The other one, Crimson, less so, but still a fairly influential band in the right circles.

    But, I notice you didn’t harken back to the jazz era, or classical. Why didn’t whatever your generation is show how great a bunch of dreamers they were/are by digging back into that? Or into the blues mosaic that led to rock, which led to prog rock? There’s a whole lot of dreamers you skipped in your listing.

    Hell, you entirely ignored folk music as it existed before recording, which was and is the heart of democratized music performed by small groups rather than big orchestras or solely for the enjoyment of the wealthy.

    Which is ignoring that you assume wrongly that more modern forms of music have some kind of hole in them where no insight exists. Which is outright blind and deaf. You think hip-hop doesn’t give insight into the human condition? Especially when it’s addressing systemic injustice and the state of society’s denigration of people of color?

    Nah, dude, this post, your hot take on music? It points to you lacking insight, to you lack imagination and thought beyond whatever it is that gets your jollies.





  • Well, it reads as just silly kid stuff. Kids do dumb shit because they’re kids.

    The important part is whether or not it was traumatic to you, not whether it was sexual, or abuse, or sexual abuse.

    It doesn’t seem like it did. It seems more like it was just weird and that was that, and that you’re looking back on it as something more than it was then. This isn’t to minimize your experiences, it’s just saying that your phrasing and the question itself point towards it not being traumatic at the time.

    Was it inappropriate? Yeah, but it’s very likely nothing bad was meant by it. Even if it was sexual on his end, that doesn’t mean he was intentionally breaking consent in a conscious way, or that kids making mistakes like that is inherently a bad thing overall. Something can be inappropriate, but not wrong because if someone lacks the capacity to understand that it’s wrong, it just isn’t the same thing as when they do, and choose to perform a hurtful act.

    Me? I think I’d just let it go and not worry about it if possible. If it isn’t possible, then it might mean there’s issues with it that need resolution with external help, so the attempt to do so kinda serves as a self diagnosis. If you’re able to easily put it aside, then it wasn’t traumatic (or not enough to matter).

    It may help you to know that that kind of thing is super common. Over on reddit, there was a sub called morbid questions, and I couldn’t begin to tell you how often people would ask what you’re asking, with the same or similar circumstances. Kids get dumb ideas, and lack the inhibition to not act on it. Kids can engage in sexual abuse, yes, but there is a difference between that and just doing something rude like slapping an ass. It’s about intent, extent, and situation.

    It may also help to know that, even if your friend did intend it as a sexual act, and did so knowing that it wasn’t acceptable behavior, that you aren’t obligated to feel any specific way about it. You don’t have to feel the same as someone else might; you don’t have to be okay with it because someone else is, you don’t have to be upset because someone else is. Your experience is yours.











  • I used to date a lady that would, during foreplay, comment that I really needed to ejaculate bad. Not the exact wording used, but it was still a little weird. Not weird enough to break my stride, because it was true enough, and with her working the pieces parts that would lead up such an event, it could have been extremely weird, and I would have been okay with it.

    This goes on for months before she finally said, “I don’t know how it fills up so fast, we just did it an hour ago.”, during a rather busy weekend that included a great deal of ejaculation. I asked her what was filling up so fast. She said “your balls, they just get so big when they’re full.”

    This lovely, wonderful lady had made it into her early thirties under the impression that all of the semen was produced and stored in the testicles, filling them up continuously. She was also under the impression that testicles would rupture if not drained regularly.

    She attributed this to something she had overhead someone say in jr high, and had apparently never figured out otherwise.

    It kinda makes sense. Why would the sack be so big and stretchy if it didn’t need to hold balls that would expand. And why would guys have different sized ones if some of them weren’t draining them more often than others.

    The ensuing conversation was a difficult one. Partially because it stopped the previous activity, partially because she had a lot of questions, and partially because it wasn’t clear if the frequency with which she wanted to prevent my testicles from exploding would decrease.

    Luckily, the conversation went very well, and they did eventually explode in the usual way, which was much more entertaining for her than before, she said. It also led to a lot of fun as she developed an almost fetish about feeling the event happen whenever activity would make that possible.