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    submitting your wrinkly ball sac to a stranger on the Internet

    She designs bioreactors and doesn’t even want to see mine for reference smdh

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    Why do men do this? Even when I was young and clueless I knew this would not work, and that also women talk to each other.

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      The goal isn’t what you assume it is. You’re projecting your own goals and concerns onto those men.

      My guess would be exhibitionism. They get sexual gratification from acting sexually towards women regardless of how those women feel about it. As for women talking to each other, that’s less of a risk on dating apps, and even irl it has never been decent at preventing sexual offenders from having plenty of victims.

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        I asked my man slut roommate (no shame, all sluts rock, all kind people rock) a while back, how he gets all these girls with this behavior?

        He said, “I just cast a wiiiiide net and the ones that respond are down”

        Beautiful and simple explanation. Just like he was, to clarify, above average beauty, and =< average smarts. Pretty good guy overall. I don’t recall he was a dick to rejection just moved along to the one that accepted.

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          But was he sending unsolicited dick pics or just saying hi? Because if it was the first one I got some news for you, and that news would be about him not being a good guy just because you didn’t have any problems.

          If he was just saying hi…why did you respond to a comment about specifically unsolicited dick pics?

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            So often the real thing is other men don’t know how objectifying and creepy their womanizing friends are, because they aren’t the target. They don’t see the behavior, often because they don’t want to, so its easy to ignore.

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              This is where I just don’t get it. Like, as a hevaily privileged dude, I just don’t see how you can watch something like this and not go “wow, that was wildly inappropriate.”

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            That was the perfect question to clarify the divide between okay or not, I can’t recall if they were unsolicited or not with certainty. I’m pretty sure they were not because I would’ve been upset and confronted him and I would probably remember the tension of the moment.

            I’m almost sure these were people he initiated conversation with already, with a, “damn girl you look good” type of thing.

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      I too wonder this sometimes. Than I realize a lot of men are clueless in general about the opposite sex.

      I think the motivation of a lot of people like this is to just have meaningless sex. Someone is not flashing their dick to a future spouse. Not many stories I have heard where it goes “Once I saw that dick pic, I knew your father was the one.”

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        Not many stories I have heard where it goes “Once I saw that dick pic, I knew your father was the one.”

        Romance is dead.

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          I still haven’t sent my wife a dick pic but I’m making her add it to our engagement story.

          Mostly because it would make people laugh.

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      this would not work

      You assume the goal is to actually try to date or fuck. It’s not. The goal is to intimidate and degrade, to make someone else uncomfortable. So viewed through that lens, it works.

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    Guide to picking up smart chicks:

    X Show dick pics

    ✓ Wrongly pronounce Saponification so she corrects you and you can ask more questions about her interests

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    Why does she need a boyfriend if she has so much pleasure listening to the sound of her own voice?

    Dick pics are cringe tho.

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      🥵😮‍💨 I love a woman who can talk nerdy to me.

      Then again I’m incapable of sending a dick pick and wouldn’t if I could because I respect that brain mmmmmm brain.

      #totallynotazombie #smartwomenaresexy

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    Meanwhile I try to get to know someone on an app who messaged me first and all I get are two word replies… Dating apps are trash.

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    What a shame, when there’s so many opportunities for an opening pun relating to “her bioreactor” or “engaging in heat dissipation”…

    Talk about low hanging fruit…

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    Best response I’ve seen to unsolicited dick pics is responding with the previous unsolicited dick pick.

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      1. Screenshot it in case they keep harassing you
      2. Report them for sexual harassment
      3. Block them (or ignore if the app you’re using has that instead so they won’t know you did anything)

      That said, the unsolicited dick pics I’ve received have been more of a frustration because I stopped responding. In that scenario they want a reaction, any reaction.

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    I have seen this before, it is a repost from years ago.

    I remember, because it was particullary irritating seeing a scientist harrassed.

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      I know it is quite common to ask in gay dating apps. Many people in there have a full set of naked photos that they send out to others on request.

      I’m not so sure about women.

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        oh yeah, I’m a woman so I forgot about gays. But women usually don’t like it nor ask for it

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      I have a friend who solicits deck pics in her dating apps. Unfortunately the only men I meet who meet my standards for dating her end up being either gay or super gay.

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      Presumably, like spam, one would guess that it works sufficiently often to make it worth the attempt? 🤢🙃😅

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        I would guess that, for the people sending them unsolicited, it’s like the fastest way to get a smash/pass answer. It’s saying “I want to sex you, here’s what I got,” in two seconds rather than the colossal effort to type out two complete sentences. There’s also some unique psychology learning/behavior math that makes the stimulus (dick pic in this case) and its lower successes more likely to continue.

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      I remember a news story about a woman who was collecting dick pics. She worked for some dating app I believe and had to review reported messages.

      She had about 30 000. So it might be solicited to her.